So I just realized this blogging thing takes a lot more dedication than expected. I had a totally shit past week, which left me feeling funky inside out. Hence my no show in blog world.
They say "it doesn't rain it pours" - no fucking shit I say. I had such a great high coming back from Naija only to be sucked into some random silly ass thing.
It all started last Monday. I was having a conversation with a good friend, when she asked me about a friend of mine Nicolas.
She: So how is Nicolas?
Me: He's cool I think. I haven't heard from him in a while. Why'd you ask?
She: Nothing o. It's just that I was speaking to Kelly (his ex) and she said they are back together.
Me: Oh cool. Those two sef, always back and forth. Their love is much sha.
She: I guess!! She did mention that she knows you won't like the fact that they’re back on.
Me (Surprised and totally dumbfounded by that comment): What? Why would she say that? Why would I mind?
She: LOL. I have no idea what she meant, but she thinks you'd be upset about it.
So the conversation dragged on for a couple more, but you get the gist.
A little history about Nicolas and I will help -we "were" very good friends with a bit of a flirtatious past. I am using past tense because Nicolas and I are no longer friends, but I digress.
Back to the real story - Nicolas and I never ever hooked up, but the potential was there. As life would have it we lived miles apart and when one was single the other was hooked up and vice versa; plus no one felt inclined to cross that line so we didn't. Short of the long is nothing ever happened between the two of us apart from some occasional flirting; but nothing worth mentioning or worrying about. Prior to the Monday I got the gist I hadn’t spoken to Nicolas in 5 months which is why I was needless to say perplexed by his ex’s comment.
Even though I was confounded, I wasn't particularly ticked off then, because I figured he had probably tried to make her jealous or something by bringing me up. Maybe he told her other babes want him so she better recognize and mentioned my name. I don't know what tricks he used to get her back.
The part that ticked me off was the next day. Since I thought we were such cool friends I was going to find a not so obvious way of alluding to what I had heard. I knew I would see him online and that would be my chance. A little hello and our conversation would start flowing. The only thing is that the following morning his babe (Kelly) was chatting with my friend and brought it up AGAIN.
Abeg people o...I hadn't spoken to Nicolas for 5 months prior to this whole thing. We would see online and exchange occasional pleasantries, but that was it. Plus my plan to speak to him for the first time in 5 months was that morning. What the hell was he telling his girl about me and him? And why was I even a topic of conversation?
As God would have it he came online shortly and I said hello. Before I could type the next sentence he said "how can I help you."
Not thinking it was me he intended to say that to said "Stop joking...LOL." This fool was serious because he proceeded to write "Look I am very busy, is there something I can do?"
Wow!! I said "Are u joking? Why the curtness?"
He replied "I didn't think I was being curt, how else can I say i'm busy?"
I replied "Point taken Nicolas. You're obviously trying to use me to feel cool. When you take that stick out from up your ass and your head is in the right place i'll tell you how I really feel."
He replied "Wow Oh!! Someone is pissed off. Anyway honey I have to go. Later"
Imagine the twat!!!
Needless to say I knew it was his guilty conscience, but the extra show he put on for whomever had turned me off completely. In all the time we'd known each other we'd never even had so much as a squabble. Now out of no where he was trying to give me attitude.
My day was shit needless to say, but I had decided to just allow it. He then proceeded to call me later that night to apologize for his behaviour. I was in no mood, so I said it was cool and we'd speak later. I bloody forgot to ask him about what I had heard because I was so irritated; but I wasn't going to call him back. My temperament was equable the next day until I heard AGAIN that his girl knows I called him. I was willing to allow it, but kilode. How can you be minding your own business and trouble comes to look for you anyway? I had to nip it in the bloody bud before it spun a life of its own.
First thing I did was tell or rather warned my friend to STOP telling me this shit - she was enabling, inciting and encouraging drama to exist where it shouldn't have. Although in her defense Kelly told her everything in strictest confidence. In no way was I supposed to hear about anything she said. I was sworn to secrecy so I couldn’t even call Nicolas to tell him to chill on the lies. Thank goodness I hadn’t even asked him the previous night because it would have propelled the drama to WWIII status in the mood I was in. I also had to think of my friends’ credibility – his ex and her were good enough friends. Although, I was pissed enough to not give a damn about her credibility, but I gave my word and I had to stand by it.
Second of all, I didn't want to be part of their stupid games. I had nothing against Kelly, but if I had to I would not shy away from a nice full on cussing session with her as my worthy recipient. I kindly told my friend to somehow let her know that she was barking up the wrong tree. My friend being the friend that she is told her "Look, Maiden is certainly not bothered if you and Nicolas are back together, besides I have never heard her even talk about him. Are you sure they are cool like that or is Nicolas just claiming they’re buddies?"
At least that's what she claimed to say. She had to make up for being stuck in the middle of silliness.
Thirdly, nobody is going to make me out to be who I’m not. I don't believe in protesting too much because it will mean I am affected or care, but the truth is this - I didn't want Nicolas in the least. He was the furthest thing on my mind. I had just enjoyed 3 weeks with Mr. L only to be sucked into some 3rd rate melodramatic squabble. I deleted him from my phone book, msn and anything I could think of. He probably doesn't think I’m mad at him or know why, but for my own peace of mind I bowed out gracefully. No drama, no nothing. Its 2007 - let everyone do what makes them happy. I am not going to let anyone affect my week like that ever again.